Seven Secrets to Losing Weight After 50
Most of what we’ve been taught about losing weight is wrong and what worked in our younger years, just doesn’t work now. Here are seven secrets to losing weight after 50.
I’ve been researching, writing about, and working with clients on the subject of losing weight after 50 for the past five years.
Secrets to Losing Weight After 50 is a companion piece to 7 Tips to Lose Weight After 50 that I wrote a couple of years ago.
Obesity is still on the rise and while being heavy after 50 is considered normal, it doesn’t have to be.
I used to focus more on the “how to” in the past, but as a life coach, I know that it is our mind that is the most important part of losing weight.
So, this isn’t your younger self’s kind of diet!
Losing weight after 50 requires a compassionate and educated approach.
While most women probably don’t lose weight after 50; it’s not because it isn’t possible. It’s because they are trying to lose weight with the same mindset that perhaps worked when they were younger.
Spoiler Alert! Those outdated methods just don’t work.
The Three C’s of Weight Loss After 50
What does work to help you lose weight after 50?
Compassion for yourself
I’ll go into this more later in the post, but you have to be compassionate with yourself to be successful.
It’s a big change to challenge old thinking. It’s going to be a challenge to not use food as entertainment or a way to cover up feelings.
Be compassionate to yourself as you navigate this new way of thinking and living. You can’t beat yourself into submission and be successful for the long-term.
Commitment to the process
Your body isn’t a machine, and you cannot control how much weight you lose in a certain period of time. You can’t exactly control when your body starts to burn fat as opposed to storing fat.
You might lose weight easily. You might not. There are things that generally work for most people and will probably work for you.
That is worth trying!
While you can’t control the speed of losing weight; you can control what YOU DO.
You have control of:
- What you eat.
- When you eat.
- How much you eat.
Committing to those things every single day is your commitment.
Celebrating every success along the way
When I work with clients, they usually begin a session telling me how much they messed up during the week.
When we break it down mathematically, it usually turns out that they only went off plan for a fraction of the week.
Most of the time, they did really great. They ate most of their meals, the way they planned. They took walks or worked out. They said no to cake at the office.
It’s crucial to look at all the ways that you were successful each day. By identifying and celebrating all your wins, this shows you that losing weight isn’t a fluke.
You are doing the work! Celebrate that my friend.
7 Secrets to Losing Weight After 50
I promised you seven secrets to losing weight after 50 and here they are. This is the backbone of a successful process to lose weight or to maintain your ideal weight after 50.
I don’t believe that you have to be thin to be healthy. I do believe that most women are not eating enough nutritious food. So, usually I have to have women eat more of some things! Losing weight is not just about cutting out food.
Here we go…
Believe that You Can Lose Weight After 50
There are still so many women that believe it is impossible to lose weight after 50. I used to be one of them!
In fact, in my forties, I believed it was impossible to lose weight. I had the belief that once you had gained weight in your forties and beyond; you would be stuck with it.
Was I ever wrong!
I lost weight in my early fifties and at 58, I am still keeping it off. Being thin in my fifties has been one of the amazing things about life after 50.
But it doesn’t happen by accident. Wishing you were thinner, doesn’t make you thinner.
While most people think age is the reason that they gain weight, it is more complicated than that.
After on and off dieting for 30 years, plus eating the wrong kinds of foods, our bodies are usually a mess on the inside.
Our eating choices don’t just affect our weight; they affect our hormones and our overall health.
Modern diet culture, and pretty much everything we’ve been taught throughout our life has been wrong.
Dangerously wrong. I address all of this in previous posts, so I won’t go into it here. But you can delve into that in my Lose Weight After 50 Guide, that includes my best posts on weight loss.
So, back to belief.
The first step to losing weight after 50, is to believe absolutely, that it is possible.
Not sort of believe. Not hope. But go full in with your belief that you can do this.
To help you with that, I’ll tell you that I did it. I have many coach friends who have done it. And we all have clients over 50 that have done it. It is possible.
Also, don’t look to your past efforts for evidence. Your brain is going to try and tell you that it just isn’t possible or that you won’t be able to keep it off. That’s totally normal. Our brains don’t like change.
For now, though, just accept that to make this happen you have to believe that it is possible.
Here is another belief you might as well start accepting. Since this isn’t a diet, it’s not something that is going to ever end.
If you want to weigh less, you have to do something different than what you are doing now. What you are doing now, creates your current weight.
That’s why when you diet, you always quit dieting at some point, and you gain all the weight back and more.
I know about that!
Here are the diets I’ve tried…
Scarsdale Diet (I’m like a million years old!): My mom brought this book home when I was a teenager. I thought I needed to lose weight. I guess she agreed because she let me try it. For the record, I was not overweight!
South Beach Diet: I don’t think I ever lost weight on this, though I kept starting it over and over.
Adele Puhn’s 5 Day Miracle Diet: This was so long ago. I remember eating crunchy vegetables at certain times. I did lose a lot of weight, but it wasn’t sustainable and looking back, it was very restricted. I do NOT recommend this diet at all.
Adkins: This was the forerunner to Keto. I just can’t keep my carbs that low. I feel gross without my healthy carbs. This was a fail, I didn’t lose any weight.
Suzanne Somers: She used to write diet books. I still am grateful that she got me eating healthy fat. Her diets were healthy-ish in general. She had you only eat carbs with no fat and only eat fat with protein or vegetables. It actually worked. I lost a lot of weight but gained it all back.
Weight Watchers: This was my last adult diet. I got super thin but at that point, I only had 19 points a day. This meant not a lot of food and no fat. Every day was miserable because I just wasn’t able to eat enough. I gained all this weight back and more. This was the LAST diet I did.
I decided after WW that I was never going to diet again. And I didn’t. Ten years later, I lost my weight through changing the types of foods I ate and when I ate them.
I don’t mind when hunger comes on, but I don’t want to be hungry when I don’t have to be!
The truth is, that all diets come to an end. Diets tell you what to eat but they do not teach you how to use your mind to get long-term success.
So, that leaves you with two choices. Keep doing what you are doing or change your eating in a loving sustainable way.
Love Your Body
I know, that is much harder than it sounds. Trust me, sometimes I am not very loving to my body! I look at the scars, the loose skin, and the fat and feel less than loving.
But that attitude does not get me thin. It doesn’t get you thin.
If hating our bodies made us thin, we’d all be size twos.
Hating our bodies gets us on diets that will let us down—again.
Hating our bodies will get us eating junk food, fast food, and all kinds of crap.
Hating our bodies will create apathy towards our own body.
We then begin to disassociate with our bodies. We kind of hate them, so we don’t look at them, and we ignore what they really need.
The antidote to that is to love your body unconditionally.
To make choices that will lead to weight loss, you have to do it from loving your body, just as it is.
This is counter intuitive. Common belief and diet culture has us punishing our bodies and talking nasty to them.
Stop. Think about your body. What comes to mind? For most of us, it isn’t good things.
What are these thoughts that are keeping you from loving yourself?
First you have to realize how you really think about your body. You might be surprised how hard you are on yourself. But it’s important to acknowledge all the thoughts that create the opposite of love.
Now, don’t beat yourself up about this, just start playing with new thoughts about your body.
Your body has taken a lot of wear and tear during your life, yet here you still are!
Allow Your Timeline to Stretch
When you make the decision to lose weight, you’ll also start putting a time limit on it. You’ll say things like, I want to lose 20 pounds by May. Or I want to lose 50 pounds by the holidays.
We’ve all been taught some bad diet math. What do you think is a normal amount of weight to lose?
Some people would say two pounds a week. Others are happy with one pound a week.
Honestly, I’m lucky if my body sheds ½ pound a week.
Here’s the thing. Our bodies aren’t machines, and they don’t know diet math. Your body is designed to not change.
Your body won’t initially even want to lose weight. Your brain won’t want to change the type of food it eats. You will feel feelings that are very uncomfortable.
Your body doesn’t care what the scales says. Your mind though, will care very much!
No matter what your diet math is, go ahead and double the time it will take to reach your goal.
And then make a decision that you are not going to quit. Because remember, you aren’t going to diet anymore!
You are going to figure out a way to eat in a sustainable way that will get you to a lower weight. Permanently.
Learn the Difference Between and Urge and Hunger
Hunger is a body sensation that is created by your hormones. Modern diets have got your hunger and satiety hormones out of whack.
That’s why you can eat way more than you are actually hungry for. And that’s why you also feel “hungry” when you just ate a couple of hours ago.
Two things are involved.
One is that your hormones are not providing the right information. At this point, they don’t know what the heck is going on and are no help.
This is because by eating way too many inflammatory foods, way too often, your hormones are probably incapable of telling you when you are truly hungry and when you are full.
Fortunately, this can be healed and reversed by the food you eat.
Also, at play is that we often eat for reasons other than hunger.
- You feel bored—you eat.
- You feel restless—you eat.
- You’re angry—you eat.
- You’re sad—you eat.
- Everyone else is eating—you eat.
You get the idea. A lot of times, you eat for other reasons than hunger. This causes you to gain weight.
The solution is two-fold. You have to change WHAT you are eating and how often. That’s the physical part. But you also have to learn to feel your feelings and not eat because of them.
That’s right. You have to feel bored, angry, sad, left out, or whatever and just sit there and not eat. Super fun!
But this is where the magic happens! Eventually, you begin to feel hunger. You begin to feel full.
You learn to eat only when you are hungry and to quit when you are full.
Make Sustainable Changes
The problem with diets is that they aren’t sustainable. So, like me, you might have figured out that there’s no point in dieting because it’s not going to work long-term.
Yet, deciding to not diet does not mean you can’t decide to lose weight.
You just have to approach it totally differently than you ever have before. You can make changes that will lead to weight loss. I have so many tips and suggestions in other posts. You don’t have to do it all at once.
Just make one change every week or two. You may not even lose any weight for a while. But eventually, you will. You’ll feel different. Your body will feel different.
You’ll control your food—instead of it controlling you!
It’s the Process that Changes You
And here’s the best secret of all. We all think that getting to our thin body will make us happy.
I’m not going to lie. I love being thin as opposed to chubbier. I love trying on clothes and being comfortable in my body.
However, it isn’t being thin that makes us happy. If you aren’t working on your mind as well as your body, you are going to drag your unhappy self along for the ride.
So, the best part of all this is the journey!
I know, I don’t even expect you to believe this right now. “Sara, I just want to lose weight, like right now. “
Trust me on this. Learning to feel anything and not eat, will teach you almost everything you need to know about yourself and your life.
You won’t just lose weight; you will learn to feel again. You won’t be burying all your emotions and broken dreams in a bag or Oreos.
You will not be afraid of messing up anymore, because there is no such thing as messing up. You’ll just be eating, and your eating isn’t good or bad, right or wrong, or healthy or unhealthy.
You’re just eating food. And you’ll begin to notice how that food affects you. And you will make choices that support what you want in your life.
And sometimes those choices will include cake, pizza, or a glass of wine.
Since you aren’t dieting, you make your choices based on the big picture of your life. If 90% of your food choices are creating positive results, your body can handle some fun food.
Remember too, if you are eating 90% fun food, then the 10% nutritious food isn’t going to make much difference either.
It is the majority of your choices that make the difference!
The Next Steps to Losing Weight After 50
If you have never experienced eating real food and living without things like sugar, pasta, bread, sodas, and alcohol, then I encourage you to look into doing a Whole30. Buy the book and retrain your brain around food.
As a coach, I don’t have anyone go to that extreme all at once. Unless they request help with that, then I’m happy to coach someone through their 30 days.
However, It Starts with Food, is definitely worth a read to understand how certain foods affect our brains.
You can also do your own research. This post has my favorite books on weight loss and nutrition.
Check out my Guide to Losing Weight After 50. I have written over 40 posts on weight loss after 50. These are some of my favorites and most popular.
Losing weight is a challenge at any age. It often feels like we’re in a battle with our body and our mind. Get some help if it feels like that.
My life’s work is helping women manage their minds around not just food, but relationships, money, work, and themselves.
Get one-on-one coaching with me. I’ve been where you are and I know how to get results for you. I’m a certified life and weight loss coach and I am interested in the whole person–not just the number of pounds you weigh. Sign up for a free 50-minute strategy call. Learn not just what to do but how to do it. It’s time to quit struggling and start changing! You can change more in a few weeks or months with coaching, things you’ve spent years trying to change.
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Hi, I'm Sara Garska and I'm so happy you're here! My Think Big Life began shortly after I turned 50. Big changes can happen with a small start, an adjustment of thought, or a simple process. Over time, you transform your life into the one you always dreamed of having. As a certified life coach, I can help you create a life you love. Click here to schedule a free 50-minute coaching session.