Be the Best You to Be the Best Grandparent

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Here’s a secret to have an amazing life. Be the best you.

By being the best YOU that you can be, will make everything better: your health, your relationships, and how you feel about your life.

I believe every woman needs to discover her zest for life. You will not only feel better, but you will also do better!

So don’t skip this because you aren’t a grandparent. Every woman needs to discover her zest for life.

August 2022 Update: I turned 60 a couple of months ago. I realized that this post really applies to all women–not just grandparents. I long to see all women, of all ages, rediscover their zest for life.

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The more you put into your relationship with yourself; the better relationship you’ll have with your grandchildren, or anyone else for that matter.

A few years ago, I wrote a post called How to Be an Awesome Grandparent. That was the first of many grand-parenting posts that I wrote over the next year or two. One of my points was that the best way to be awesome was to be yourself.

This has continually resulted in having not just a fun relationships but meaningful ones.

How I Became the Best Version of Myself

I’ll be honest, my grandchildren adore me, are fascinated by me, and want to spend every minute I am at their house with me.

I don’t say that to brag; I share it because by writing about how to be an awesome or unforgettable grandparent, I really worked on these relationships over the years.

Having this type of relationship with my grandchildren gave me the courage to trying being myself with everyone else. This didn’t happen overnight but it has happened.

Some relationships became better. Some relationships fell away naturally.

The most important thing I believe I’ve done, is I worked on being the best ME.

In the years since I became a grandmother, I have worked hard on my self-development and creating a deep and trusting relationship with myself.

I can’t even believe how I have grown as a woman. And as that woman, my grandkids love to be around me and spend time hanging out with me.

By being the best you that you can be, you will be a person that grandchildren of all ages love to be around!

In this post, I am going to share ways that I did the personal work to become the best version of me, so that I could be the best grandparent.

Let Go of Grudges, Resentments, and Hurt

A huge part of my self-work has been learning the art of forgiveness. If you did nothing else but work on clearing grudges, resentments, and hurt, you will have more peace and calmness in your life.

If you are blaming another person or situation for your life, you might be walking around with grudges, resentments, and hurt.

Now, there is nothing wrong with feeling ANY of those things. However, if you hang onto them for dear life, then it affects you and how people perceive you.

But most of all my friend, hanging on to those kinds of feelings, only hurt you. They truly hurt and cause pain in your own life.

Even if you are 100% justified in your feelings, it is still worthwhile to process your pain and let it go.

This may seem IMPOSSIBLE due to your situation or circumstances. However, even the intent to forgive creates some breathing room.

Letting go does not make you a doormat or weak. It will not leave you open to more hurt. Learning this takes time but it actually makes you stronger and more secure in yourself.

A peaceful person, who is at peace with herself is always more attractive in the sense that people want to be around her. This especially includes your grandchildren!

Take Care of Your Health

There are no guarantees of time for any of us! I consider myself healthy, but I know that doesn’t mean I’ll have 40 more years with the grandkids. But I sure am hoping for it.

For me, eating real food, moving my body, and having a positive outlook on life help keep me active and energetic.

The payoff is that I can actively participate in a lot of things with the girls! While I love quiet activities too, it’s still fun to go to parks, take walks, push them on the swing, or go roller skating.

You may never want to get on skates again—I’m not sure I will either! But I do love being able to do stuff that I do want to do with them.

Eating real food and moving your body, increases your personal vitality. You radiate more energy and enthusiasm for life. Seriously! You become infused with animation and vibrance when you make your body a priority.

Try New Things

Try new things my friend, with or without the grandkids. There is nothing like being a beginner and learning something new to give you some appreciation for what your grandkids do every day, all day.

Just because we’re grandmothers doesn’t mean life is over for us or that we can’t try new things.

I became a grandmother when I was 52. Since that time, I have:

  • Got divorced (super bummer and not fun, but I survived it)
  • Went from a size 14 to a size 8 and maintained this for years
  • Learned to ride a bike for long distances
  • Hiked up mountains and in national parks—and even did one trip all on my own
  • Started a successful blog—this one!
  • Took on a new job for a while
  • Went out with over 40 different men (sometimes just once)
  • Fell in love three times, got engaged once, and finally found happiness in myself and by myself
  • Got certified as a life and weight loss coach (business number two after 50)
  • Started a second website, Granny’s in the Kitchen, with my daughter
  • Bought my first on-my-own car
  • Bought my first on-my-own house

Now at 60, I’m starting new projects, making new friends, and having new experiences.

Believe me, I was NOT like this in my 20’s, 30’s, or 40’s! I was afraid to try stuff and often quit way too soon.

I think doing new things is the fountain of youth. At the very least, even if you don’t look younger, you will feel younger.

It’s funny, because it might appear, that I have this wildly adventuresome life. And it is at times.

But most of the time, I’m a quiet introvert who loves to write and create. My time with the grandchildren is usually spent playing on the floor, doing crafts, or cuddling and watching a movie.

Picture of Sara playing barbies with children

Recently, I bought my six-year old granddaughter this complicated child-level electrical engineering toy. Yes, I AM that kind of grandmother. I had hoped that someone, other than me would help her with it.

However, when I visited a month after Christmas and still no one had opened the box, I took a deep breath and decided that I would tackle that thing.

To be honest, at first it freaked me out! There was no way I would be able to create electrical circuits.

We forged ahead and created several working circuits that gradually became more complicated. The kids loved it and I was so proud of myself.

Picture of author Sara playing with electronics

Be an Enthusiastic Participant in Life

Life is hard sometimes. It is scary, unpredictable, and messy at times. So much so, that it’s tempting to hide away and stick to what we are comfortable with and what we know.

Being a full enthusiastic participant in life requires us to FEEL all the feelings. Are you up for some embarrassment, sadness, fear, anger, shame, and uncertainty?

Sounds like fun, right? But the willingness to feel anything, gives you so much freedom in your life.

On the other hand, you also get to feel amazing, committed, brave, wild, sexy, loving, playful, enthusiastic, and adorable.

Who needs comfortable (a.k.a. BORING) when you have a tray of amazing feelings like that?

Picture of Sara in her living room

Take Responsibility for Your Own Feelings

This is a biggie. Your kids don’t make you happy. Your grandkids don’t make you happy. Your partner doesn’t make you happy. And they don’t create your unhappiness.

Yes, when I look at my grand-daughters I feel like my heart will explode. I am filled with love, happiness, and joy.

But they aren’t doing that. It is me, thinking wonderful things about them.

I could probably if I tried really hard think some not so great things about them. And I wouldn’t feel nearly as good.

The reason this is so important is that we can mess up relationships really bad when we expect other people to make us happy.

I had a period of time, a few years back, when I made some judgements about how my daughter was acting. It was not making me happy. I thought she was the problem.

Thank goodness, I hired my own coach and that’s when I discovered that I was causing all my own suffering. I worked on that myself for myself. I cleaned up my own thinking and that changed EVERYTHING.

Instead of having a strained relationship, we’ve gotten closer and closer and I am grateful every day that I did the inner work to be a better woman, mother, and friend to her.

You can change relationships all by yourself! It’s amazing and true.

Be You, not Perfect

I want to end this post by assuring you that you don’t have to be perfect to be the best you. Truly, you can just show up as yourself and be the best.

My life’s work is helping you achieve your version of your best you. You are hard-wired to grow and strive to be better.

It’s counter-intuitive but becoming the best you, means becoming the most authentic version of yourself rather than a “perfect” version of yourself.

Being loved by yourself, just as you are is the very best thing you can do for yourself and all your relationships, including the one between you and your grandchildren.

If you are struggling in any of the above areas, I can help. It’s what I did for myself and now I do for others.

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  1. Ruth on August 9, 2023 at 11:41 am

    This is a wonderful blog, I have no idea how it came across my email, but it came just when I needed it most! Is there a way to subscribe?

    • Sara on August 10, 2023 at 8:58 am

      Thank you for the comment! There is a pop up that will get you subscribed to my email list. I send out mini posts via email every week! Sara

  2. Pamela White on June 12, 2022 at 1:51 pm

    I’ve really enjoyed reading these articles on grand parenting today! I’ve been a little nervous about relating to my 2 teen grands. I feel much more encouraged and confident. Thank you!

  3. Sharon Flaten on March 2, 2022 at 9:40 am

    At 70, I’ve moved in with my daughter’s family, including my oldest grandchildren…Sabastian (20) and Korona (17). I haven’t been that close to the kids, even though I want to. I just never know how to start.

    We’ve lived 3 hours apart, until now…after the passing of my sister…and before/during my plans to do van life. So, I’m here to work on the van, and we will also work on a tiny home for me to live in, when I’m ready.

    I would love for my grandson to help with the van. He’s learning disabled and not quite 20 in mind, but he’s sharp. My granddaughter loves everyone…openly and freely. I encourage her job and we do crafts together. But Sabastian’s not warming up to me. He’s very reserved.

    All that to say that I really enjoyed this and the other being your best grandparent post. I feel like a have more of a plan. I can use what I’ve learned from just these two articles to make positive strides with my grand-children. Thank you!

    • Sara on March 19, 2022 at 11:15 am

      You’ve got this! Keep being YOU and you’ll create that relationship you want.

  4. Tami Kirpes on February 9, 2021 at 12:13 pm

    Thank you.

    • Sara on February 9, 2021 at 2:26 pm

      You’re welcome!

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