Why Is it So Hard to Lose Weight?

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It’s not your imagination; it is hard to lose weight. While many people will say it’s easy or that you should do this or that, the fact remains that losing weight and keeping it off are difficult. Why is it so hard to lose weight?

Why is it so hard to lose weight? It’s because your body doesn’t want to lose weight. It’s not designed to lose weight or to make it easy to lose weight. Your body wants to stay at a stable weight and its complex system of hormones fights your efforts to drop the pounds.

This is actually a good thing when you think about it. Imagine how we’d all look if we could simply eat less, exercise more, and easily drop as many pounds as we want.

We’d be hot messes of skinniness and unhealthy if this were so.

Instead, our body miraculously maintains a fairly steady weight for you if you don’t mess it up with diets and too much of the foods that can cause you to gain weight.

I know that doesn’t sound like good news, especially if you are feeling overweight right now.

It's not your imagination; it is hard to lose weight. While many people will say it's easy or that you should do this or that, the fact remains that losing weight and keeping it off are difficult. Why is it so hard to lose weight?

Did you know though, that the categories of being overweight and even obese were arbitrarily set? Ideal BMI and the categories of overweight and obese were simply created by a mathematician in Belgium almost 200 YEARS ago!

It doesn’t take into account anything about YOU or your body. Just weight and height. We are so much more than that. It’s a mathematical formula that was used to help one county allocate rations two centuries ago.

Here’s another thing. You could be overweight by this formula and actually be more muscular than fat! Or you could have larger, heavier bones and be considered overweight.

Yet, we all know people, and may be one yourself, who is at a weight that is considered above ideal and be perfectly healthy, inside and out.

So, as you contemplate losing weight, you have to think, do I really need to?

Here’s something else you don’t hear often. Our body sizes might be as individual as say, our height or hair color. We don’t all come in one size and it’s ridiculous to think we should.

Yet, we do. And in the pursuit of a weight that is not our true body, we often set in motion something that makes us bigger than we really should be.

Diets, my friend, rarely end well.

If you are above the age of 30, you have seen, pretty much everyone you know lose weight. And gain it and more back. I’ve had it happen! And it happens without any fanfare. But it happens steadily and stealthily without the person knowing why.

Let’s talk about our normal weight for a minute.

Most of us have or had a normal weight. Looking back on pictures we can see proof, we had a normal, perfectly nice weight. But we got bamboozled by something that said we were too big.

And we began the cycle of trying to lose weight.

Now in our 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, and beyond we are still trying to lose that weight.

We see our own bodies and even the food we eat as the enemies.

For your own health, stop trying to lose weight for the sake of losing weight.

Having fat on your body, does not make it unhealthy.

I know plenty of really thin people that have one health problem after another.

Now I am not saying that carrying more fat than is comfortable is healthy either. Some of the things that make you fat—are simply not good for you and cause inflammation and that is the basis for a lot of health problems. And I’m not saying being thin is unhealthy.

I’m saying that you can be healthy either way. Or not healthy.

Many thin people eat the things that cause inflammation too and they suffer the same consequences. It’s not the fat on your body—it’s what is going in it. Or things beyond your control.

Why Is it So Hard to Lose Weight?

Because for some of us, we don’t even need to lose weight. For others, we are looking for body love in all the wrong places.

Here’s what you deserve as a woman.

  • To eat food that tastes good.
  • To not be hungry.
  • To not feel ashamed of your body.
  • To enjoy food and see it as the nourishment to your body it is.
  • To be free from craving for junk food.

This is true self love. It is possible to live in your body, eat food that is good for you and that you love. It’s even possible to sometimes eat that shit that we think will make us feel better.

But Sara, I still want to lose weight!

Fair enough. But first, learn to feed your body. Learn to limit the things that cause inflammation and pack on the fat. To find your body weight, your natural body weight, you have to actually feed your body and give it the good stuff. You need to limit the things that cause it to gain fat unnaturally. This is totally doable and will give you freedom like you’ve never had!

Why is it So Hard to Lose Weight?

Besides, your natural body size, your hormones have an impact on your weight. Not just at that time of the month or in menopause but every day, all day long. Your hormones run the weight gain and loss show. Too much insulin and cortisol. You gain weight. Sugar and foods that act like sugar cause your insulin to be too high. Too much cortisol, and you also gain weight.

Insulin can be controlled with food. Cortisol is a little trickier since it is stress-related.

My best advice. Eat real food, limit insulin-raising foods, and do exercise that releases stress. It’s not the fanciest advice but it won’t hurt your body and it will help you take care of your body for a long time. I truly believe that restoring healthy eating habits and overcoming cravings is the only way to manage your weight in a long-term way.

Here are the ways I did this.

How to Lose Weight When You Have no Willpower

How Whole 30 Changed my Life

Healthy Tips to Lose Weight

Fat Burning Secrets Everyone Needs to Know

These are not overnight success actions. Yet, I never am at the mercy of cravings and I have a peaceful relationship with food. Best of all, I have a body that lets me do anything I want to.

Here are some books that are helping me understand my body better and love it at the same time!

Health at Any Size

Body Respect

Love, Sara

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