How to Find Your Own Path in Life
Uncover your true calling and find your own path in life. Choosing your own path in life is an amazing process if you are open to taking steps towards it in a spirit of curiosity and trust in yourself.
One of the things that can keep you feeling stuck in life is not having any idea what your own path in life should look like. I
t seems like others have a discovered their calling or passion and you may wonder, “How do I find my own path in life?”
I’ve worked with thousands of people trying to figure out their own unique paths in life, so I totally get how frustrating it can be finding the right path in life.
The main thing to remember is that our path, our journey, our career, our creative venture, or any other “thing we need to do,” doesn’t always make itself easily known to many of us.
I can’t tell you how many adults of ALL ages have said to me, “I don’t know what I want to do when I grow up?” And this even included people in successful careers!
Because, unfortunately, not knowing exactly where were are heading can keep us feeling stuck quite firmly where we are.
Tips for Finding Your Own Path in Life
This post describes common ways people keep themselves from finding their own path. For many of you, your passion wasn’t something your were born knowing. It’s not enough just to know what’s blocking you.
So for every block to finding your path, I’ve also included tips for actually finding your own path in life.
What Kinds of Things Keep Us from Finding Your Own Path in Life?
Waiting for the big idea!
Nobody goes around saying, “Hey, I want to come up with a small, insignificant, crappy idea!”
No one. So we all want to have great ideas. But waiting for THE Big idea to come, can really keep you stuck.
Our small, poorly formed ideas scare us. We want to make sure we don’t waste any time! What if our idea doesn’t work? Or worse, what if we think it’s just so small and inconsequential that we aren’t willing to work with it.
Waiting for the right or big idea can eat up way more time than exploring smaller undeveloped ideas. Because unless we work through the smaller ideas, the big idea can’t always get through.
Tip to find your own path in life:
Don’t wait for it. Take the ideas you do have and work through them no matter how tiny or inconsequential they seem.
Clearing the little ideas out of your mental queue will allow bigger ideas to come through. By the time they start making themselves known to you, you will have developed the ability to develop them as well.
Too much information!
That thing, that you think you should be doing–there are so many different ways of doing it.
Google anything and you’ll get hundreds if not thousands of results. Articles and videos abound. With so many ways to do something; it can be almost impossible to figure out the best way of doing anything.
For example, I sometimes see new bloggers asking for tips when getting started. Google “blogging tips” and over 20 Million results come up. Talk about information overload!
Tip to find your own path in life:
You have to narrow your focus.
You may not get it right the first time. Or you might. Just make the best decision you can with the information you have. Adjust as needed.
Don’t take in too much information at a time. In working with a blogging coach, I didn’t try to do everything at once.
I worked in stages and got comfortable with what I was trying to learn at any given time. As you get competent in one area, you will naturally be ready to tackle another area.
Try not to let all the stuff out there you don’t know, intimidate you.
Get started with something doable, do it, and then add on.
Not wanting to be a beginner!
Nobody wants to be a beginner. However, you have to start where you have to start. You will get unstuck gradually. As you explore, learn, and do more, you will begin to see things you couldn’t have seen or understand when you began.
Being a beginner can be tough. Yet, it can be the most awesome time. During that time, it’s actually OKAY to not know everything. You get to ask all the questions you want. You don’t have to pretend that you are an expert.
Tip to find your own path in life:
Embrace being a beginner. The quickest way through it is to start working your way through it.
When I was a new college advisor, I hated being new. I would have to look so many things up. I would have to go ask other advisors questions. I would sometimes have to admit, that I was NEW. I made mistakes. Fun times!
I’ve gone through being a beginner as a waitress, a travel agent, a counselor, a program director, and a blogger.
Of course in a new job or position we have no choice. For all the things I’ve actually done—I’ve probably avoided ten times as many because I didn’t want to be a beginner. Do I have regrets? Heck yes!
Remember how you went from beginner to expert in the jobs you’ve had. You do have the ability to learn something new and become good at it. You’ve done it so many times. Also think about things you’ve previously avoided and the regrets you may have. Don’t pile up any more regrets about things you wished you’d done.
Find Your Own Path Now—How to Get Unstuck!
You need to make some effort, to make any progress. Wishing, visualizing, and reading will help but action drives progress.
And the action does not have to be perfect or huge. It does however have to be consistent and significant enough to make magic happen.
You have to learn to trust your own process.
What Doesn’t Work to Find Your Own Path in Life
What doesn’t work is to indefinitely keep adding to your information overload.
You can spend thousands of dollars on information and courses (trying to avoid being a beginner) and still not get unstuck. But if you just keep getting new information without taking action, you don’t get anywhere. So…
Accept that you will take action without a clear picture of the future.
Accept that your objective may not fit tidily into something others can understand.
Accept course-correcting as you go along.
You can make the best decision, based on what you currently know about yourself and what you want to get started finding your own path.
Make the best decision you can and head in that direction. You don’t need to see the whole path to discover your calling. You just need to see a little bit in front of you. That path is always changing anyway, especially these days. So go confidently towards your best target, right now.
Keep showing up my friends! Feeling stuck doesn’t feel good. But you can move out of that with gentle, self-loving actions and find your own path in life!
I’d love to hear from you and how you deal with this. Below I share some of my other posts that deal with things that can keep us stuck.
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