How to Find Your Own Path in Life

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Uncover your true calling and find your own path in life. Choosing your own path in life is an amazing process if you are open to taking steps towards it in a spirit of curiosity and trust in yourself.

One of the things that can keep you feeling stuck in life is not having any idea what your own path in life should look like. I

t seems like others have a discovered their calling or passion and you may wonder, “How do I find my own path in life?”

I’ve worked with thousands of people trying to figure out  their own unique paths in life, so I totally get how frustrating it can be finding the right path in life.

The main thing to remember is that our path, our journey, our career, our creative venture, or any other “thing we need to do,” doesn’t always make itself easily known to many of us.

I can’t tell you how many adults of ALL ages have said to me, “I don’t know what I want to do when I grow up?” And this even included people in successful careers!

Because, unfortunately, not knowing exactly where were are heading can keep us feeling stuck quite firmly where we are.

Tips for Finding Your Own Path in Life

This post describes common ways people keep themselves from finding their own path. For many of you, your passion wasn’t something your were born knowing. It’s not enough just to know what’s blocking you.

So for every block to finding your path, I’ve also included tips for actually finding your own path in life.

Uncover your true calling and find your own path in life. Choosing your own path in life is an amazing process if you are open to taking steps towards it in a spirit of curiosity and trust in yourself.

What Kinds of Things Keep Us from Finding Your Own Path in Life?

Waiting for the big idea!

Nobody goes around saying, “Hey, I want to come up with a small, insignificant, crappy idea!”

No one. So we all want to have great ideas. But waiting for THE Big idea to come, can really keep you stuck.

Our small, poorly formed ideas scare us. We want to make sure we don’t waste any time! What if our idea doesn’t work? Or worse, what if we think it’s just so small and inconsequential that we aren’t willing to work with it.

Waiting for the right or big idea can eat up way more time than exploring smaller undeveloped ideas. Because unless we work through the smaller ideas, the big idea can’t always get through.

Tip to find your own path in life: 

Don’t wait for it. Take the ideas you do have and work through them no matter how tiny or inconsequential they seem.

Clearing the little ideas out of your mental queue will allow bigger ideas to come through. By the time they start making themselves known to you, you will have developed the ability to develop them as well.

Too much information!

That thing, that you think you should be doing–there are so many different ways of doing it.

Google anything and you’ll get hundreds if not thousands of results. Articles and videos abound. With so many ways to do something; it can be almost impossible to figure out the best way of doing anything.

For example, I sometimes see new bloggers asking for tips when getting started. Google “blogging tips” and over 20 Million results come up. Talk about information overload!

Tip to find your own path in life:

You have to narrow your focus.

I’m a big believer in following your intuition and looking for quality content to provide direction. Explore a few ways of doing something and pick one. Or find one mentor and try it their way. 

You may not get it right the first time. Or you might. Just make the best decision you can with the information you have. Adjust as needed.

Don’t take in too much information at a time. In working with a blogging coach, I didn’t try to do everything at once.

I worked in stages and got comfortable with what I was trying to learn at any given time. As you get competent in one area, you will naturally be ready to tackle another area.

Try not to let all the stuff out there you don’t know, intimidate you.

Get started with something doable, do it, and then add on.

Not wanting to be a beginner!

Nobody wants to be a beginner. However, you have to start where you have to start. You will get unstuck gradually. As you explore, learn, and do more, you will begin to see things you couldn’t have seen or understand when you began.

Being a beginner can be tough. Yet, it can be the most awesome time. During that time, it’s actually OKAY to not know everything. You get to ask all the questions you want. You don’t have to pretend that you are an expert.

Tip to find your own path in life:

Embrace being a beginner. The quickest way through it is to start working your way through it.

When I was a new college advisor, I hated being new. I would have to look so many things up. I would have to go ask other advisors questions. I would sometimes have to admit, that I was NEW. I made mistakes. Fun times!

I’ve gone through being a beginner as a waitress, a travel agent, a counselor, a program director, and a blogger.

Of course in a new job or position we have no choice. For all the things I’ve actually done—I’ve probably avoided ten times as many because I didn’t want to be a beginner. Do I have regrets? Heck yes!

Remember how you went from beginner to expert in the jobs you’ve had. You do have the ability to learn something new and become good at it. You’ve done it so many times. Also think about things you’ve previously avoided and the regrets you may have. Don’t pile up any more regrets about things you wished you’d done.

Find Your Own Path Now—How to Get Unstuck!

You need to make some effort, to make any progress. Wishing, visualizing, and reading will help but action drives progress.

And the action does not have to be perfect or huge. It does however have to be consistent and significant enough to make magic happen.

You have to learn to trust your own process.

What Doesn’t Work to Find Your Own Path in Life

What doesn’t work is to indefinitely keep adding to your information overload.

You can spend thousands of dollars on information and courses (trying to avoid being a beginner) and still not get unstuck. But if you just keep getting new information without taking action, you don’t get anywhere. So…

Accept that you will take action without a clear picture of the future.

Accept that your objective may not fit tidily into something others can understand.

Accept course-correcting as you go along.

You can make the best decision, based on what you currently know about yourself and what you want to get started finding your own path.

Make the best decision you can and head in that direction. You don’t need to see the whole path to discover your calling. You just need to see a little bit in front of you. That path is always changing anyway, especially these days. So go confidently towards your best target, right now.

Keep showing up my friends! Feeling stuck doesn’t feel good. But you can move out of that with gentle, self-loving actions and find your own path in life!

I’d love to hear from you and how you deal with this. Below I share some of my other posts that deal with things that can keep us stuck.

Related Posts to Help You Find Your Own Path in Life

Living with purpose is powerful. I’m not sure any of us have just one PURPOSE in life. We fulfill different purposes throughout our lives. Yet, with attention, we can live more of our life on purpose. And that can make for a very satisfying life. How to Find Your Life Purpose

I was once very very stuck and had to learn a way to move out of that and on with my life. This process keeps me going to this day. Small actions DO add up to BIG things. How to Get Things Done When You Don’t Feel Like It.

Sometimes we feel stuck because of unmade decisions or because of a hurt we are holding on to. I address these issues head-on in these posts. These kinds of mental clutter can keep you feeling extremely stuck! 7 Signs You Need to Make a Decision and  How to Forgive Someone When You Don’t Feel like it.

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  1. Kate on January 12, 2019 at 8:19 pm

    This was a great post! I really enjoyed all your tips, and will definitely be applying this to some areas of my life.

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  3. Olivia on December 7, 2016 at 5:30 pm

    Thank you for this!! I have always been a big-dreamer with huge goals that seem so out of reach. I refuse to be the kind of person who never goes after those dreams, however I’m terrified of not being able to see the path and of wasting time! This made me feel so much better.

    • Sara on December 12, 2016 at 6:28 pm

      Olivia, thank you so much for reading and commenting. I totally get you on being afraid because you can’t see the path. But the more I trust, working with the part I can see, the better things go. These days, I just focus on the part I can see and know I should do. And really, who is to say, what is a waste of time? Your dreams matter!

  4. Zuleka Naina on November 6, 2016 at 12:24 am

    Thank you this is too helpful for me

  5. Elizabeth on November 2, 2016 at 5:20 pm

    This is a really great article. I appreciate your intuitive approach and relatable advice.

    • Sara on November 15, 2016 at 1:21 pm

      Thanks Elizabeth. I appreciate you stopping by and reading and commenting.

  6. Tanielle on August 7, 2016 at 9:30 am

    Hi Sara! I feel like you are speaking right to me. I’ve finally made the decision to start my own blog about a subject I feel really stongly about but I’m still battling my own doubts. Now that I’ve started on my path I still wonder if I have the right ‘big idea’. Thank you for your strategies – so timely.

    • Sara on August 7, 2016 at 10:02 am

      Hi Tanielle! Yeah, those pesky doubts. But all you can do is FOLLOW THE IDEA THAT YOU HAVE NOW. It may or may not turn out to be your big idea. But you won’t get to that place unless you follow the inspiration you have right now. So, tell your DOUBTS that and reassure them that it will be okay. Can’t wait to see what you do!

      • Tanielle on August 7, 2016 at 10:15 am

        Wow! Thanks for the encouragement Sara…I’ll keep it moving

  7. Daria on July 13, 2016 at 2:02 pm

    Wonderful, wise advice. As a new blogger I totally relate to information overload and not wanting to be a beginner. Recently I went through my inbox and unsubscribed to quite a few coaches. I’ve selected a few people whose advice seems reasonable and they seem like nice people. I brain dumped my ridiculous to do list and am pecking away at it a little at a time. Otherwise I’ll go insane. I’m going to remember your strategies when I get stuck in the future. Thanks so much!

    • Sara on July 14, 2016 at 4:08 pm

      I didn’t realize that you were a “new” blogger–your expertise really shines! 🙂 Thanks for the comment Daria.

  8. Paula on July 10, 2016 at 11:38 am

    Great post Sara! I’m dealing with the not being sure about what I want right now in regards to my career. I’m an assistant manager at a retail store, and my plans at one time were to climb the ladder to store manager. But the closer I’ve got to people in those positions, I see how little work/balance they have. And I don’t want my life to be about work. So, I’m 37 and trying to figure out again what I want to be when I grow up! Should I stay in my current position? Or move on to something else entirely? Thank you for your post and the reminder that I’m not alone in feeling stuck!

    • Sara on July 10, 2016 at 12:15 pm

      Hi Paula, you definitely aren’t alone! I’ve been reading your blog (and implementing some of your suggestions) and see you have many qualities that would transfer into many careers. You definitely inspire me!

      • Paula on July 10, 2016 at 12:34 pm

        Thank you Sara! You don’t know how much that means to me! 🙂

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