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How to Get Unstuck in Life Part 2

How to get unstuck in life can be a problem when we don’t even know what we want to do? So how can you get unstuck in life when you don't even know the direction to go? Here are the strategies that have worked for me.

How to get unstuck in life can be a problem when we don’t even know what we want to do? You are are NOT alone if you feel like this! Here are strategies and encouragement to help you get unstuck in life when you’re not sure the direction to go.

My first How to Get Unstuck post talked about the power of using a small commitment of time every day to move you out of that feeling of being stuck. In Part One, I described how I got unstuck and finished a big project and how I use my method for completing smaller ongoing projects and goals. This deceptively easy method worked for me.

Yet, I realized that there is an even bigger reason that people feel stuck. Recommending that someone work on a goal or project daily does not help if you don’t know what the heck you even want to do!

What if you can’t even identify the goal or the path to follow. We often feel stuck because we don’t know what direction to turn.

We could get unstuck if we could only figure out what we are supposed to do! I’m here to give you some ideas for dealing with this too. I’ve worked with thousands of people trying to figure out “what to do” so I totally get how frustrating it can be.

The main thing to remember is that our path, our journey, our career, our creative venture, or any other “thing we need to do” doesn’t always make itself easily known to us. I can’t tell you how many adults of ALL ages have said to me, “I don’t know what I want to do when I grow up?” And this even included people in successful careers!

Because, unfortunately, not knowing exactly where were are heading can keep us feeling stuck quite firmly where we are.

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What Kinds of Things Keep Us from Knowing What We Want to Do?

Waiting for the BIG Idea!

Nobody goes around saying, “Hey, I want to come up with a small, insignificant, crappy idea!”

No one. So we all want to have great ideas. But waiting for THE Big idea to come, can really keep you stuck.

Our small, poorly formed ideas scare us. We want to make sure we don’t waste any time! What if our idea doesn’t work? Or worse, what if we think it’s just so small and inconsequential that we aren’t willing to work with it.

Waiting for the right or big idea can eat up way more time than exploring smaller undeveloped ideas. Because unless we work through the smaller ideas, the big idea can’t always get through.

Strategy for dealing with waiting for the big idea: Don’t wait for it. Take the ideas you do have and work through them no matter how tiny or inconsequential they seem. Clearing the little ideas out of your mental queue will allow bigger ideas to come through. By the time they start making themselves known to you, you will have developed the ability to develop them as well.

Too much information!

That thing, that you think you should be doing–there are so many different ways of doing it. Google anything and you’ll get hundreds if not thousands of results. Articles and videos abound. With so many ways to do something; it can be almost impossible to figure out the best way of doing anything.

For example, I sometimes see new bloggers asking for tips when getting started. Google “blogging tips” and over 20 Million results come up. Talk about information overload!

Strategy for dealing with too much information: You have to narrow your focus. I’m a big believer in following your intuition and looking for quality content to provide direction. Explore a few ways of doing something and pick one. Or find one mentor and try it their way.

You may not get it right the first time. Or you might. Just make the best decision you can with the information you have. Adjust as needed.

Don’t take in too much information at a time. In working with a blogging coach, I didn’t try to do everything at once. I worked in stages and got comfortable with what I was trying to learn at any given time. As you get competent in one area, you will naturally be ready to tackle another area.

Try not to let all the stuff out there you don’t know, intimidate you.

Get started with something doable, do it, and then add on.

Not wanting to be a beginner!

Nobody wants to be a beginner. However, you have to start where you have to start. You will get unstuck gradually. As you explore, learn, and do more, you will begin to see things you couldn’t have seen or understand when you began.

Being a beginner can be tough. Yet, it can be the most awesome time. During that time, it’s actually OKAY to not know everything. You get to ask all the questions you want. You don’t have to pretend that you are an expert.

Strategy for dealing with not wanting to be a beginner. Embrace being a beginner. The quickest way through it is to start working your way through it. When I was a new college advisor, I hated being new. I would have to look so many things up. I would have to go ask other advisors questions. I would sometimes have to admit, that I was NEW. I made mistakes. Fun times!

I’ve gone through being a beginner as a waitress, a travel agent, a counselor, a program director, and a blogger. Of course in a new job or position we have no choice. For all the things I’ve actually done—I’ve probably avoided ten times as many because I didn’t want to be a beginner. Do I have regrets? Heck yes!

Remember how you went from beginner to expert in the jobs you’ve had. You do have the ability to learn something new and become good at it. You’ve done it so many times. Also think about things you’ve previously avoided and the regrets you may have. Don’t pile up any more regrets about things you wished you’d done.

Getting on Your Path—How to Get Unstuck!

You need to make some effort, to make any progress. Wishing, visualizing, and reading will help but action drives progress. And the action does not have to be perfect or huge. It does however have to be consistent and significant enough to make magic happen.

Getting unstuck and figuring out what to do requires this:

You have to learn to trust your own process.

What doesn’t work is to indefinitely keep adding to your information overload. You can spend thousands of dollars on information and courses (trying to avoid being a beginner) and still not get unstuck. But if you just keep getting new information without taking action, you don’t get any where. So…

Accept that you will take action without a clear picture of the future.

Accept that your objective may not fit tidily into something others can understand.

Accept course-correcting as you go along.

You can make the best decision, based on what you currently know about your self and what you want. Make the best decision you can and head in that direction. You don’t need to see the whole path. Who cares? That path is always changing anyway, especially these days. So go confidently towards your best target, right now.

Keep showing up my friends! Feeling stuck doesn’t feel good. But you can move out of that with gentle, self-loving actions.

I’d love to hear from you and how you deal with this. Below I share some of my other posts that deal with things that can keep us stuck.

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Living with purpose is powerful. I’m not sure any of us have just one PURPOSE in life. We fulfill different purposes throughout our lives. Yet, with attention, we can live more of our life on purpose. And that can make for a very satisfying life.

Living life ON purpose and WITH purpose gives me more satisfaction than chasing happiness. Don’t freak out if you don’t know your Purpose with a capital P. We’re talking about living your life ON purpose—living deliberately—and living a life aligned WITH your values.

 

I was once very very stuck and had to learn a way to move out of that and on with my life. This process keeps me going to this day. Small actions DO add up to BIG things.

That feeling of being stuck can be simply frustrating to you for a day or two or it can go on much longer and become a real problem. I know how important it is to be able to make progress on goals and projects that are important to you and I want to share some of the things that have helped me.

Sometimes we feel stuck because of unmade decisions or because of a hurt we are holding on to. I address these issues head-on in these posts. These kinds of mental clutter can keep you feeling extremely stuck!

Unmade decisions are mental clutter that can affect your emotions, productivity, and even sleep. Improve your decision making to improve your life. The power of making a decision can positively affect many areas of your life such as health, finances, career, and relationships.

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself and here is why you need to forgive. Understanding and practicing forgiveness is essential to your health and overall wellbeing. Learning to forgive will make you happier, more resilient, more attractive, and a stronger person who is able to have better relationships.

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  • Paula July 10, 2016, 11:38 am

    Great post Sara! I’m dealing with the not being sure about what I want right now in regards to my career. I’m an assistant manager at a retail store, and my plans at one time were to climb the ladder to store manager. But the closer I’ve got to people in those positions, I see how little work/balance they have. And I don’t want my life to be about work. So, I’m 37 and trying to figure out again what I want to be when I grow up! Should I stay in my current position? Or move on to something else entirely? Thank you for your post and the reminder that I’m not alone in feeling stuck!

    • Sara July 10, 2016, 12:15 pm

      Hi Paula, you definitely aren’t alone! I’ve been reading your blog (and implementing some of your suggestions) and see you have many qualities that would transfer into many careers. You definitely inspire me!

      • Paula July 10, 2016, 12:34 pm

        Thank you Sara! You don’t know how much that means to me! 🙂

  • Daria July 13, 2016, 2:02 pm

    Wonderful, wise advice. As a new blogger I totally relate to information overload and not wanting to be a beginner. Recently I went through my inbox and unsubscribed to quite a few coaches. I’ve selected a few people whose advice seems reasonable and they seem like nice people. I brain dumped my ridiculous to do list and am pecking away at it a little at a time. Otherwise I’ll go insane. I’m going to remember your strategies when I get stuck in the future. Thanks so much!

    • Sara July 14, 2016, 4:08 pm

      I didn’t realize that you were a “new” blogger–your expertise really shines! 🙂 Thanks for the comment Daria.

  • Tanielle August 7, 2016, 9:30 am

    Hi Sara! I feel like you are speaking right to me. I’ve finally made the decision to start my own blog about a subject I feel really stongly about but I’m still battling my own doubts. Now that I’ve started on my path I still wonder if I have the right ‘big idea’. Thank you for your strategies – so timely.

    • Sara August 7, 2016, 10:02 am

      Hi Tanielle! Yeah, those pesky doubts. But all you can do is FOLLOW THE IDEA THAT YOU HAVE NOW. It may or may not turn out to be your big idea. But you won’t get to that place unless you follow the inspiration you have right now. So, tell your DOUBTS that and reassure them that it will be okay. Can’t wait to see what you do!

      • Tanielle August 7, 2016, 10:15 am

        Wow! Thanks for the encouragement Sara…I’ll keep it moving

  • Elizabeth November 2, 2016, 5:20 pm

    This is a really great article. I appreciate your intuitive approach and relatable advice.

    • Sara November 15, 2016, 1:21 pm

      Thanks Elizabeth. I appreciate you stopping by and reading and commenting.

  • Zuleka Naina November 6, 2016, 12:24 am

    Thank you this is too helpful for me

  • Olivia December 7, 2016, 5:30 pm

    Thank you for this!! I have always been a big-dreamer with huge goals that seem so out of reach. I refuse to be the kind of person who never goes after those dreams, however I’m terrified of not being able to see the path and of wasting time! This made me feel so much better.

    • Sara December 12, 2016, 6:28 pm

      Olivia, thank you so much for reading and commenting. I totally get you on being afraid because you can’t see the path. But the more I trust, working with the part I can see, the better things go. These days, I just focus on the part I can see and know I should do. And really, who is to say, what is a waste of time? Your dreams matter!

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