How to Succeed at Losing Weight After 50

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Here are the most effective actions you can do to succeed at losing weight after 50. I’m sharing my top 10 things to help you succeed at losing weight once and for all!

Are you frustrated with those extra pounds that have been creeping up every year? If the answer is yes, stick with me here.

By now you know just going on a diet isn’t a solution.

Listening to 30 year olds telling you how to do it isn’t going to work.

Doing what you did in your younger years isn’t going to work.

To lose weight after fifty, you have to look at the process in a whole new way and I can help you learn to do that.

As a certified weight loss and life coach for women over 50, I’m at expert at helping you use your MIND to get the results you want in your body and in your life!

I’ve written over 40 posts on how to lose weight after 50! I’m excited to share a new page, where I’ve pulled my favorite posts and put them into an order that you can use to get started. Check out my GUIDE TO LOSING WEIGHT AFTER 50.

Why is Losing Weight After 50 Hard?

Losing weight can seem like such a drag, especially when are convinced we’ll probably just fail anyway.

Plus we have all kinds of sneaky thoughts that keep us discouraged before we even get started.

  • This is going to be hard.
  • I’ll miss out.
  • But the weekends…
  • It’s not fair!
  • Diet food tastes bad

Most of us by 50, have 20 to 30 years of dieting behind us! We’ve done them all.

Weight Watchers, South Beach, low-carb, low-fat, and everything in between!

While most diets can help you lose weight, it always comes back and sometimes with a vengeance it seems.

The other reason it is hard to lose weight, is that usually we are just told what to do. We never actually learn to succeed.

I believe that this is a two-part process. You have to learn why you are gaining weight from a physical perspective and you have to learn to work with your BRAIN.

I want to also add, that most women use dieting as a way to punish themselves. When you diet with that mentality, it is always doomed.

Succeeding at weight loss means that you have to LOVE yourself and your body to take care of it rather than just beating it up and hoping for a number on the scale!

Why You Want to Succeed at Losing Weight

Here’s what my clients tell me they really want.

Being thin alone won’t give you these things. However, learning to nourish and love your body will!

Here the reasons my clients give for wanting to lose weight:

  • To have more energy
  • To be able to keep up with kids are grandkids.
  • To go on vacation and DO things, not just sit around.
  • To be free from overeating and shame about food.
  • To be able to think about things other than food or weight.
  • To dance or love the night away.
  • To feel sexy and attractive.
  • To not feel out of control.
  • To wear cute clothes again

Here’s some great news about succeeding at weight loss after 50

Well before you get to your goal weight, you will be experiencing these things! Honestly, when you lose that first size, you will feel amazing!

When you are eating real food, your energy will go up. When you haven’t binged on junk, you’ll feel sexier and attractive. At 58, I feel so much better and self-confident than I ever have in my life.

April 2021

Why We Fail at Losing Weight After 50

By now, we all have our own personal experience with diets, dieting, trying to eat right, and still weighing more than we would like. A lot of you are probably feeling a lot of shame about your body or how you eat.

I know this, because every client tells me that they feel ashamed. Shame is really normal but where it causes a problem, is that it covers up the REAL feelings that cause you to overeat. That’s one of the reasons that getting a coach can be so helpful.

None of this is your fault. We are living in bodies, with brains that last evolved about 10,000 years ago.

Yet we live with food and food culture that encourages us to over desire food.

Most of the food that people eat these days was designed in a laboratory with the purpose of being irresistible. Exact proportions of sugar, salt, and fat keep you coming back for more even when you aren’t hungry.

Plus, we’ve heard forever, that we women can’t lose weight after 50.

That’s BS. I’ve lost weight and I know that you can lose weight and do it without depriving yourself or making yourself miserable.

This is why we are failing at losing weight after 50–there is so much misinformation out there and we live in a world full of unhealthy foods that are designed to make us want to eat them.

If that sounds scary–good! I want to help you break free from all that.

I care about all my sisters out there that are fighting the good fight and losing.

It’s time to stop the battle, stop fighting with food, and most of all stop fighting with your body.

In fact, food can become a joy again! You can learn to trust and love your body again.

This isn’t just about losing weight, it’s about learning to eat, learning to appreciate real food, and about healing your body.

At 58, I am at peace in my body and able to maintain a size eight easily.

Our bodies and brains are doing the best they can with modern food created in laboratories, advertising that constantly encourages us to eat and drink, and all the stresses that come with life these days.

This stuff takes a toll on our bodies and our minds. Even thinking about losing weight feels tiring and discouraging before we even start.

Being Thin Doesn’t Equal Being Healthy

One thing I do want to say here. It’s a myth that losing weight automatically makes you healthier. I know doctors like to tell people to lose weight and most of us believe thinner people are healthier.

The research says differently. Having a few extra pounds is fine. A couple of books that are really great to read are Body Respect and Healthy at Any Size. Also the Big Fat Surprise, which gets into the research behind diets.

I really focus more on eating real food and healthy fats and keeping inflammation down. That all being said, I really enjoy being thin. Oh, and on a funny note about that.

I recently calculated my BMI and I am on the HIGH end of normal. Right on the border of being overweight.

Feel free to do some research on BMI. It’s kind of a joke. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re overweight based on that!

I was overweight and a little chubby through my 40’s and into the first couple of years of my 50’s. I didn’t believe that I could maintain a smaller size. But I did. In my 50’s and through menopause.

I’ve written at least 40 posts on losing weight and they are mostly about the mechanics of what to eat and how to eat it. This post is about mind strategy.

Your brain is your most important tool in knowing whether you are going to succeed or fail.

Here we go with my 10 tips on how to succeed at losing weight!

You aren’t going to diet ever again

This first tip supersedes all the others.

Instead of thinking of it as a diet or losing weight, think of it as a way of eating that will restore you to a natural weight.

If you do something that helps you lose weight and you get to a size that feels really good BUT you go back to eating like you did, you will put the weight back on.

So, the key here is to take your time, do the mental work, and find a way to eat that is good for YOUR body and that you can do forever.

Figuring this out takes time but is so worth it. I want you to begin to imagine and believe that you could live your life without worrying about your weight or ever going on a diet again.

You can learn to just eat in a way that fuels your body and maintains the size you are.

Create a vision of yourself at your ideal weight

When you are at your new and permanent weight, what will your life be like?

Will you have more energy?

Will you be out dancing on the weekends?

Will you be wearing sexy dresses?

Will you move with strength and confidence?

Get out your journal (you all have one, right?) and start writing down what you’ll be like when you are at that new weight.

How are you going to be thinking about yourself?

How are you going to feel?

What will you be doing then? What won’t you be doing anymore?

Really try and connect with this future self.

Now take it a step further. In your journal or notebook, write a letter from your smaller, successful-at-losing weight self to your current self.

Ask her to tell you what your life will be like, why what you did was so amazing, and how grateful she is to you. Keep this letter somewhere you can refer to when the going gets tough.

My current self is so grateful to my past self for eating real food, exercising, and taking care of her body.

Set a weight loss goal

Now, let’s set a goal if you want to succeed at losing weight. Setting a goal, gives you a place to go.

You wouldn’t just get in your car and start driving with no idea where you are headed, right? Decide how much you want to weigh and write it down.

This is now your goal.

Writing something down is so powerful (and maybe a little scary). It is your commitment to yourself. It is an ideal that you plan to achieve and you aren’t going to quit until you are there.

Now, I know, when you first set a goal, it can seem impossible. Your mind will probably bitch and moan that it’s going to take forever and maybe even longer.

Your brain will give you all kinds of reasons why that goal is so impossible.

  • I’m too old.
  • I’ve never stuck to anything like this.
  • I don’t even know if it’s possible.
  • It’s going to take a long time.

Your mind will try to convince you to not even try!

Your brain isn’t your enemy though. Your brain is trying to do what it does best—take the easy way, avoid pain, and be efficient about it.

If you just give up now, it will save you a lot of trouble, right?

But here’s the thing. If you set a goal and take the steps I’m sharing with you, you will be somewhere in a year that you aren’t right now.

In a year, you could be at your goal. You might be half-way to your goal. But you will not be sitting where you are now.

If you read this and keep doing what you always do, in a year, you’ll weigh the same, or you might even be heavier.

So, when your brain says it’s going to take too long or whatever, realize that it’s just trying to save you some time and trouble.

But you know a secret now. You get to be in charge of the goal.

You get to decide if you want to stay in the same painful place or if you want to be in a different place.

Create a plan

You’ll want to pick some kind of plan.

I started with doing a Whole30 to learn to eat real food. Once I was eating real food, then I experimented until I found a plan that helped me lose weight.

I use a combination of eating real food and intermittent fasting, supplemented with bone broth.

To start, your plan could be to simply eat three meals a day and not snack in between. This is where I usually recommend women start. Getting enough food at meals, so they don’t snack.

Your plan might be to not eat sugar or foods that act like sugar in your body, except when you specifically have a plan to do that. Perhaps for a special occasion.

This would look like removing bread and pasta from most meals and adding more vegetables and fat to your meals.

Your plan is as unique as you.

One thing I know, if you are overweight, you are eating in a way that is not allowing your body to access its fat storage. You are holding onto excess pounds and not losing them.

You’ll want to chose a plan that addresses how hormones affect your weight and to teach your body to access its fat stores.

The old saying, eat less and exercise more, however, does not address how specific foods work in your body. You can be a person who doesn’t overeat and still gain weight or not be able to lose weight.

It will take some experimentation to get it dialed in for yourself. This sounds like a pain, but it truly is the secret that will help you lose weight and keep it off for good.

You create a plan and give it a few weeks to see how your body adapts. If you begin losing weight, you know you are on to something!

Have other goals besides losing weight

This is SO key to losing weight and maintaining your weight loss!

These goals are different from your weight goal. These are goals that you have 100% control of.

Each week, you can create a goal or two for yourself. And every day that you meet that goal, you can congratulate yourself! Here are some examples;

  • Drink 8 glasses of water
  • Walk 30 minutes
  • Prepare lunches at home each day
  • No snacks after dinner
  • No snacks between lunch and dinner
  • Eat five vegetables a day

As you incorporate your goals into your diet, they become your new normal.

You don’t have to have 10 goals a week though. Pick one or two to work on and keep at it until you master it and it feels like normal. Once you’ve got it mastered, pick another one.

Pick the easiest ones first! If you are able to do it four days one week, then see if you can do it five days the next week.

It might sound tedious. But you know what else is tedious? Dragging around 20 to 40 extra pounds for the rest of your life.

Weigh yourself Once a week and write it down

This is key to keeping track of what is happening with your body.

But so many people say the scale is bad. What’s with that?

The scale isn’t bad. Weighing yourself isn’t bad.

That little piece of metal on your floor, is just a way to track data.

Yet, we give it so much power. We give it power over our whole day! Good days start with a good weight. Bad days start with a bad weight.

And raise your hand if this is true. When you’ve gone for a long time without weighing yourself and all your clothes are tight, or maybe you’ve had to go buy some new ones, you really HATE getting on the scale!

In fact, I now know that when I dread weighing myself, I know I’ve been indulging for too many days and just don’t want to see that represented with a number on my scale.

Yet, weighing myself weekly, is KEY to maintaining my weight loss. I just get on the scale in the morning, look at the number and write it in tiny print on my calendar. The end.

When you have set a goal and created a plan, you have to have a way to track the data. Seriously, what you see on the scale is just a number. Some days it will be up even though you stuck to your plan the day before.

No big deal. Daily fluctuations will not be a cause for feeling bad about yourself anymore.

While you are losing weight though, weighing yourself once a week is fine.

Don’t let any one number bum you out. Over six months or a year, those pounds will add up.

And really, remember all those other goals you are working on? Give yourself huge credit for do those!

Track what you are eating

Again, in your journal, or have a separate one for food, keep track of everything you eat, every day. Write down every single bite and everything you drink. You could also record your weight in here too.

This isn’t some exquisite form of punishment. You need data to figure out what’s working or not working.

I remember when I was tracking my food and had a period where my energy was really low.

I looked back over the previous week or so, and I realized that I was not eating enough higher carb vegetables like sweet potatoes. I started adding half a sweet potato with my dinner and I felt better.

If you aren’t losing weight, you can look at what you’ve been eating for a few weeks and see if there are any places where you could adjust your plan.

Finally, tracking your food will help you become more conscious about what you are eating.

Especially at the beginning, just track without trying to change anything. Get used to recording anything you put in your mouth.

Then when you are more comfortable with that, look it over and see what you could adjust. Keep on tracking and weighing and see what happens.

Plan for fun food

Here is some good news. You can eat pretty much anything you want. You can’t eat everything you want all the time though.

In the beginning, I do think it’s easier to not have meals that show up as a couple of pounds every week.

If you are trying to lose, you want to get your body into the losing weight mode before you add in too many exceptions.

I am maintaining my weight. I’m not trying to lose weight and I don’t want to gain weight. My body tolerates one or two exceptions a week.

Here’s what it looks like and what happens.

I go out to dinner about once a week and I eat whatever looks good to me. I’m sure it’s more calories, carbs, and fat than my usual meals, but I order what I want, and I eat until I’m satisfied.

I don’t polish off the whole plate if I get full before I am done. On the other hand, sometimes I eat every bite.

It sometimes shows up on my scale on Monday.

My body goes back down a couple of pounds throughout the week. So, overall, I maintain a fairly steady weight.

If you are trying to lose weight, a big exception meal every week might keep you from losing. It might not, you might still lose a pound a week or so. If you do, be sure and track it and see how it affects the scale. No big deal!

Once you are at your goal weight, you can have some exceptions. The key is that it’s just one or two meals a week. Not cheat meals. Not cheat days. Just some meals that you enjoy that feel like a treat.

Don’t quit ever

This is super important. To reach your goal weight, you have to decide that you will not quit until you are there. Ever.

No matter what happens. You will always have a plan that you are following and you are writing down your food and weighing yourself.

You will lose weight.

It might not be as fast as you want. Don’t care. Don’t quit.

You might get bored with it, tired of it, and feeling sorry for yourself because you are on this journey.

That’s normal and no reason to quit.

Just don’t quit. Okay?

Take your time

I know, we all want that extra weight to just be gone. Like yesterday.

Or at the very least, we want to drop the pounds as quick as possible, starting the day we change our eating.

Our bodies don’t work like that. It takes time for your body to make the adjustment from storing fat to using fat as fuel. It can take weeks for your body to do that, even if you are doing everything perfectly.

Remember, even before you start metabolizing your fat stores, you are improving your health by using food as nourishment and fuel and reducing inflammation.

You are benefiting, no matter what the scales says!

This time you are not looking for a quick fix—you are looking for a permanent solution.

A lot of my clients aren’t just wanting to lose weight. They also want things like:

  • To have more energy
  • To be able to keep up with kids are grandkids.
  • To go on vacation and DO things, not just sit around.
  • To be free from overeating and shame about food.
  • To be able to think about things other than food or weight.
  • To dance or love the night away.
  • To feel sexy and attractive.
  • To not feel out of control.

Losing weight is only part of the end result! So many good things come when your life isn’t run by your cravings, hunger, and desire for food.

Make your own list of why you want to lose weight. This will remind you of exactly why you are doing this now.

How to Succeed at Losing Weight After 50

Over the years, I’ve shared so much information on HOW to lose weight. I’ve shared books I’ve read. I’ve shared my experience and what works for me. I’ve shared research I’ve read.

The how-to is all out there for you. I’ve even created a video for you about it.

However, the very best way I can help is one-on-one coaching.

Because losing weight is a mind game too. If you just read this whole post and think there is no way you could ever do this, then coaching may be for you!

Here’s the truth. It IS POSSIBLE to do everything that I’ve written here. It’s truly possible when you have someone helping you ever single week to meet your goals.

I believe in you already. I believe in you more than you believe in yourself. I know how to do impossible things and I can teach you to do impossible things too.

What I really want for you is to have an amazing life, no matter what your size is.

I want you to have a great relationship with food and see it simply as nourishment and fuel. I want to remove the drama about your weight, your size, and whatever the scale says.

And when you are able to do that. Then you get to decide what weight you want to be and what you want to do about it!

That’s an amazing life my friends.

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4 Comments

  1. mary on January 25, 2021 at 9:28 am

    Hey there! I’m excited to find you and your blog. I’m 47 and I believe entering menopause. My goodness, about 7 pounds have creeped on and I’m having a time getting them to off, but I refuse to give up. I’ve given up beer and processed foods, but there’s room for improvement. Got an apple watch and have been walking daily. I lift weights and love it but am struggling with muscle pain and inflammation after. It’s driving me nuts. I tortured myself by using a foam roller last night. Ouch, but if that’s what it takes, I’ll keep it up. Anyway, thank you for the information, guidance, and hope.

    • Sara on January 25, 2021 at 12:30 pm

      Thanks for commenting on how to be successful at losing weight after 50! Giving up beer and processed foods is a great start. If lifting weights is causing pain, cut back on the weight–that might help. I rarely use more than 2 or 3 pounds because my shoulder gets irritated easily.

  2. Valentina on January 6, 2021 at 3:42 am

    I discovered this site by chance, it was admirable. I recently turned 50 and I have a lot of questions due to the transformation my body is in. In the few pages I flipped through, I have already found some answers. Transformations due to menopause are not discussed very often, and this generates frustration. Therefore, thank you very much for the information you shared with me, they are very helpful! I tried to subscribe to the news on the site, I still haven’t succeeded. I’ll try again.
    Congratulations on what you have accomplished, along with all the good thoughts now, at the beginning of the year! :

    Am descoperit intamplator acest site, a admirabil. Am implinit recent 50 si am multe intrebari datorita transformarii in care se afla corpul meu. In cele cateva pagini pe care le-am rasfoit, am gasit deja cateva raspunsuri. Transformarile datorate menopauzei nu sunt discutate prea des, iar asta genereaza frustrare. De aceea, iti multumesc mult pentru informatiile pe care mi le-ai impartasit, imi sunt de mare ajutor! Am incercat sa ma abonez la noutatile de pe site, inca n-am reusit. Mai incerc.
    Felicitari pentru ceea ce ai realizat, impreuna cu toate gandurile bune acum, la inceput de an! :*

    • Sara on January 6, 2021 at 1:05 pm

      Thanks for the comment! There is so much wrong information out there for women and I want to show them that there is a different way! Happy new year.

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